ONE DAY AT A TIME…

ONE DAY AT A TIME…

Few days before I had my second baby, I got a letter from the embassy I was working with as Communications and Research Officer, to say my contract with them wasn’t going to be renewed. 

I believed God that a miracle would happen, probably get called back, or even get a better job than the former.

It never happened.

Soon after our daughter was born, my husband got a letter from the Organization he was working with, to say his services were no longer needed.

It became a very trying 4 years for us. 

It was tough! We had to change our daughter’s school and drastically cut down on a lot. We enrolled with a cheaper hospital and could no longer afford some meals. Plantain which I love so much, became luxury. There were days I fed my girls pap( local Nigerian cereal) thrice a day for days, sometimes without milk or sugar. Some days, my husband and I just slept on empty stomachs.

Going through this trying phase of our lives was quite overwhelming. Trust me, major life’s changes like this can fluster anyone.

Occasionally, I would hide and cry out all the heaviness in my heart, because of our kids. They didn’t deserve that hardship.

I took up a job that paid me just about 13.5 percent of what I was earning before. My husband did like wise. We weren’t making much, but it was a buffer. 

I‘m grateful still, because that period helped to build some virtues in me, birth some hidden gifts and also helped to shape me into the woman I am right now.

We all at different stages of our lives are faced with some sort of challenge, and in different degrees. For some, it could be their marriage, for others a sick child. It could be the death of a loved one or a failing health or even business.

When we were faced with those terribly hard times, I adopted a couple of things I will share with you. These were the things that kept me.

*When you go through challenges, hold

fast to your faith, never give up.

Constantly keep your mind on God’s promises and not on your circumstances. 

*In trying times, keep confessing the word of God and not the negativity of the prevailing circumstance. 

*As hard as it may seem, when you are faced with challenges, be patient and know that God is with you. 

*There are always lessons to learn. Be sensitive enough not to miss them.

Within that Period, I was confident that our victory was near. I realized that my faith became stronger.

Father, when faced with challenges, help us to constantly keep our faith in you, and also patiently learn the lessons in those times in Jesus name.

Amen!

MOTHER OF 1,2,3… WHAT ARE YOU ALIVE FOR?

MOTHER OF 1,2,3… WHAT ARE YOU ALIVE FOR?

The thoughts of motherhood and parenting is quite exciting for me, especially when I see the little humans in my care gradually transform from infant to toddler and then a child. Soon enough teenager and then adult.

It’s amazing how God does these things. We don’t see them grow, yet everyday they grow.

Our roles as mothers has it such that many times we are so pre occupied with our duties and work so much that we ignore a very important part of our lives. 

The motherhood journey is an interesting one. One that can totally bury us from fulfilling our God given assignment here on earth.

I realized from the very start of this year, there has been a very deep hunger in my spirit. The hunger to step out beyond my duties to the greater assignment I was created for. Frankly, I am no longer comfortable and satisfied with the excuse of “But Lord the Children, the Home, Work”. As genuine as those excuses are, our reason for being alive transcends those.

What is your purpose here on earth? What are you alive for? To get married and have kids? To have a great job and a superb income? I doubt!

What is that thing God has strongly laid in your heart to do?

It’s not too late to start. It’s better that it’s started late, than not done at all. Let the people whose lives we are meant to affect not suffer because of our complacency.

No matter the height we attain, even if we reach the pinnacle of our careers, no matter how well we think we are raising our children, we can never truly have that fulfillment we long for, unless we are among those that trivialize the things of God.

We are women, we are mothers, regardless, there’s a purpose for which we were created.

My fulfillment comes from the place of knowing that the assignment I was sent on earth for was done.

So help us today Lord. For those of us mothers that do not know our purpose, please lay it in our hearts. For as many of us that know yet have been complacent, please help us to begin to do that which you brought us here on earth for.

In Jesus name, Amen!

NEW YEAR, NEW THINGS….

NEW YEAR, NEW THINGS….

I woke up with this disposition expecting that by some mysterious happenings, everything is going to be brand new.

But guess what? I‘m still brown skinned, black hair, same flaws, same state.

Can I just wave a wand and have everything transformed?

I wish I could…. 

You mean if I don’t set the alarm to a time for devotion, I will still be on my bed sleeping? Right! 

And the character flaws? They are still there! They didn’t disappear with 2020. What was I thinking?

The courses I plan doing? Thought I would enter 2021, and suddenly have my head full of knowledge and new experiences.

Could it be that easy?

The job I have been dreaming about? 2021, am I in that office yet? You tell me!

I expected to enter the new year and have a newly registered business say my name.

Hello 2021…

Truth is I’m still the same person, and so are you. We have to consciously work to walk into that change we so desperately want to see.

For every of our set goals, our dreams, the visualized happenings, our aspirations, for every change we want to see in this new year (character inclusive), if we don’t consciously work at it, 2022 will still have us in same state.

For every single thing we hope to achieve, let every new day find us diligently working towards it.

Each day’s activities should take us closer to that end…

AND God surely would help us.

Happy New Year!

HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY MY 2ND PRINCESS

HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY MY 2ND PRINCESS

First of January has always been very special and even more so now. I’m excited to be celebrating one of the most beautiful girls on the face of the earth. She calls herself superstar, and that is what she is.

My heart is full of so much gratitude, to say it’s 5 years today! The sleepless nights, watching you sit, crawl, stand, those golden steps,

and now this amazing child.

I’ve watched you grow into that independent, strong-willed, super intelligent, charming and adorable little girl, a constant reminder of God’s faithfulness.

Oh how I love those very cute smiles, and your laughter that is heavenly…

God is faithful! He has kept you, preserved you, protected you and today you are 5. We couldn’t have been more right to have named you Kayla, for indeed who is like God?

I consider us extremely loved by God to have been blessed with this all in one bag of cuteness!

Happy birthday darling, We love you dearly.

WISHES ARE NOT HORSES, PLAN!

WISHES ARE NOT HORSES, PLAN!

It’s quite tempting for me every new year to try to cover everything I could not do in the previous year and even more tempting it is to attempt to tick off all that I desire in the new year.

2020 ends in a day. I’m not going to beat myself that I didn’t tick off all on my list, rather, I’m grateful that I have another opportunity to continue and even do much more. 

While I sit to set my self development, financial, career etc goals, what tops the chart for me is my family goals.

I go to God in prayer and ask for wisdom to build a better home, trusting Him for better guidance in my relationship with my husband (a very important aspect of my life) and then my daughters.

Raising kids is not an easy task, I acknowledge that, but I won’t just sit around and allow nature take its course in this phase of their lives. So I think, I plan, I strategize and then ask God to help me. 

I don’t feel satisfied with how I have led them so far, so I tell Him. 

I understand that just as I am deliberate about their physical growth, I equally have to be deliberate about their spiritual growth, and growth in other areas. I don’t want to get frustrated and unfulfilled, so for each monthly milestone set for them, I ask Him to help me accomplish it.

I ask Him to help me because I know very well that it’s not by power or might, but by the spirit.

It’s very important as mothers and fathers to deliberately plan for our kids.

We are about entering a new year, what do you hope to achieve with your kids in 2021?

Categorized into Spiritual, financial, educational, developmental and recreational goals (you can make up the list).

Have you set them already? Good, take them to the Lord in prayer.

Are you yet to set them? Ask the Lord to help you.

Stay focused!

I love you all.

See you in 2021

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